I was discussing one of my previous posts(dealing with disappointments) with a group of friends yesterday and the way conversations go, we ended up delving into the topic of this post. A friend(Let's call her 'Boma')who wanted to invest in something asked our advice on her investment idea as she wanted to be sure she was on the right track before she puts her money into something she would regret.
As everyone gave their input, I noticed Boma's countenance change from happy and confident, to discouraged. At some point, one of the girls(Let's call her 'Allie') told Boma, "Don't do it. You don't know so much that area. It's too vast and boring. Invest in something that is easy to understand and with little cash so that if it fails, you will know that you are not losing so much. But really, I think you should stick to your current job. It's not bad, and you get paid constantly and the promotion might come soon.
I had no contributed so much but I noticed that Boma's countenance had changed completely.She was now very quiet. I had to ask her what was wrong and she said she didn't think she would invest as she did not get any positive response. Now, I had to tell Boma to forget everything everyone had told her, research about the area she wanted to invest in, consult experts in that area, and pray about it before finally decides on what to do. I don't know if that was what she wanted to hear from me, but that was the best I could give her as I, like her, didn't have enough information about the area she was interested in.
Sometimes in life, it is those around us that gives us the biggest discouragement. Like Boma's situation yesterday, she needed encouragement, and at least, advice from us, but a great percentage of what she got was discouragement and bad energy. There was nothing she could have achieved yesterday if she had dwelt on the negativity she had received.
Like Allie, some people around us may give us negative responses. Some people always give negative reviews and energy which might not be constructive. It is not what is thrown at us that matters, it is how we react to it that is important. Just because someone says something about us or to us, it doesn't mean that we should let it affect us completely. Be okay saying NO to anything that won't help you. Someone once told me me "People do not decide their future. They decide their habits and their habits decide their future." Although that phrase was meant in a financial sense, I think it relates here. If you have the habit of letting others determine what you do or how you feel, they are actually determining some parts, if not all, of your future. The worst part? They are giving the trash the don't want and you don't need. You are not a garbage can. Just refuse to accept it all.
When terrible things are said to you, or someone does something terrible to you, just brush it off and do you. Fix the habit of feeling bad about it. Work towards it for the sake of a better, happier year.
- The Lady
'“And the Lord said to Samuel, Hearken unto their voice, and make them a king. And Samuel said
unto the men of Israel, Go ye every man unto his city.”
1 Samuel 8:22
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