Where ever you are,
I hope you make peace,
With your broken pieces."
-R.H Sin
I learnt late in life, a little too late I believe, to grow a thick skin against whatever hurtful thing I might experience. I'm not saying that I don't get hurt or disappointed. On the contrary, I do get disappointed and hurt sometimes. We are human beings, and it is almost impossible to please everyone. Infact, you can't please everyone, you are not Jollof rice!
In recent times, I got tired of getting hurt by people. All those days of bearing grudges, being sad and completely unhappy on some days...it was too much, I was tired of it. I decided at some point to just get over it, block it all out and just do me. Making the decision was the easy part. After that came the action, the time to implement the decision that had been made.
It was no joke at all. It was as if as soon as I made the decision not to let others control my emotions and my mood, the temptations came flooding in! Like water! It was saddening to say the least. But gradually, I began making myself laugh whenever any hurtful, annoying, or disappointing thing happens. Not saying that was easy either, but I kept at it because that was better than being sad over another person's words or actions.
Life has been easier that way. I wake up knowing that I am in charge of my day and my feelings. The best tip I can give? Expect anything good and bad, from anyone. When the good comes? Live it, celebrate it, enjoy it! When the bad comes? Laugh, find as much humour as you can in it. That terrible moment will pass anyway. So live your life free of the pain others might cause. We sometimes contribute to the hurt and disappointment by expecting more from others just because we are willing to do that much for them. Let's stop that and live life as we make it.
- The Lady
“The voice of the Lord divideth the flames of fire.”
Psalms 29:7
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