We have heard stories about people's lives and experiences, sometimes from others, but most times from the people themselves. The stories may differ, but the reaction(s) expected from us, which could range from pity, tears, and hugs, to advice, or support, usually is the same. We have sometimes been the ones telling our stories to others.
As humans, it is 'in us' to want to share details of our lives, especially to those who are close to us. And as Africans, 'those who are close to us' includes not just members of our family, both nuclear and extended, but our friends, neighbours, church members, business partners, and much more. Social media has added a spin to this tendency. Now, sharing details of our lives is as easy as the click of a button. This has gradually become a habit. Sometimes making our private lives public.
This habit might have helped us at some point, but on the long run, will amount to some sort of issue. The truth is, not every aspect of our lives needs to be shared. And definitely not everyone is interested in being part of our lives or hearing about our lives. Most times, we tell the wrong people and end up worse than we were when we don't get the reaction we expected, or when our stories are used against us in some way.
The first step in breaking this habit is to stop focusing on the problem and to start focusing on the solution(s) or possibilities. When this can be done, the need to share every detail of our lives will reduce. When faced with an issue, remember, no amount of worrying or talking about the issue can change it, we need to create a solution plan and work with it.
- The Lady
“Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul
prospereth."
3 John 1:2
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