"The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes." - Marcel Proust
"Things like that don't happen to people like me."
Ever caught or heard yourself saying that? I have. A number of times. I have lost count of the number. But I can remember that those times, I was either trying to be funny, or I was being unnecessarily humble.*Yes, I have learnt to be brutally honest with myself!* But that is the most disgusting confession anyone can make about themselves. It displays your low self-esteem to the world, and the world responds by giving you crap.
I used to know this girl whose measurement of low self-esteem was below anything I have seen. Hers was as a result of a terribly abusive relationship. It was so bad, she never hung out with friends because she had come to believe that she was not pretty enough to be part of a group of friends, nor was she 'cool' enough to hangout with people.
If you even compliment her on what she wore, she would say something like "Oh. It's just a cheap and old thing." I remember thinking "Something is wrong with this girl" whenever I saw her. Thinking of her now, I wish I had spoken some atom of self-esteem into her, or probably just shook some sense into her. I don't think I ever saw her happy. The thought of it all is just sad.
Low self-esteem has dealt a number on some people that many can not ever recover from. It affects EVERY area of its victims' lives. Their careers, relationships, and general every day lives. It holds people back from going for what they want and deserve.
It and its cousin Mr. Doubt. They are an awful bunch. Like parasites, they feed on every joy and happiness, whether past, present, or future, in the victim's life until the person is empty of everything except existence.
When a victim of low self-esteem gets a great opportunity staring her in the eyes, she ignores it because she has grown to believe that she does not deserve such good thing. She lets go of things that she wants and needs because she doesn't believe that it is for her.
That's the principle of the broken cookies. Some people have become so messed up by low self-esteem and its accompanying cousin, Mr. Doubt, that they now believe that they can achieve nothing. Even things as little as having fun and being happy seem like abominations to them.
If you ever feel this way, know that you are not alone in this. There are a lot of people going through the same thing. But you need to overcome it. You need to remind yourself daily that you deserve the full, unbroken cookies just like every other person. Build yourself and your confidence.
Go on and go after what you really want, need, and deserve.
Hope you are having a great week?
- The Lady
“Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.”
Galatians 5:1
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