SITUATIONSHIP

I promise you that 'situationship' is not an English word in the dictionary, but it is a condition that deserves its place in the dictionary. I don't have an appropriate term to describe the condition, and I had been in one or two in the past before I realized what was happening. So have you if you really think about it.

A 'Situationship' is a condition of having a connection or association with a person not related to you,(in most cases), whether by blood or marriage, and not really 'relating' with that person except for a few, sometimes forced, form of action. Now let's break that my definition down. Ever been in a situation where you only hangout with a person, not because you really want to, but because of the situation you have(sometimes unknowingly) put yourself in? Exactly! That is a situationship.

Humans, especially in this age of social media and networking, have not only succeeded in making the world smaller, but have created some form of relationship with the various people we have met along the line. Many have forged business relationships, some marital relationships, some romantic relationships, and some situationships(as there is no other bracket to branch what they've created). 

I once went to the movies with a couple of friends, and while we waited for the movie to begin, one of the girls brought up an issue of a boy who was on her Facebook Messenger list and whom she did not know how to interact with. She had met him at her cousin's wedding and he connected with her on Facebook through a picture from that wedding in which she was tagged in. He had asked her out on a date, and although she went on the date, she said that the conversation was 'just there' and that there was no 'spark' between them. Their chats consisted of mostly "Hello", "Hi", "How are you and your family?", "Fine. And yours?". She didn't know how to manage the situation. 

Some of us have been there. In various versions, but it all boils down to the same thing. A situation where you are not exactly anything with that person but you are something together. I have heard of a situationship where all that the two people had was sexual relations and nothing more. Holding a normal conversation was awkward for them, and if you asked them if they were in a relationship, they will both vehemently say no. This was not a 'friends with benefits' situation as they would have to be friends which they were not.

Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to say that every way we relate with people should be given a name or tagged as friendship, or relationship, or whatever, but it is more tidy to know what you are to the other person so that relating with that person would be easier. I mean, how do you handle a thing that was/is not a 'thing'? How do you treat each other, or introduce the other person? How do you even end it when it gets to that point? Situationships can be really tricky to manage. But, we live in a world where there are different people with different ways of associating. I would only advice that you listen to your heart and know what you want so that you don't create a situationship when you want a relationship or vice versa. 

- The Lady



      “And I will shake all nations, and the desire of all nations shall come: and I will fill this house
                                                 with glory, saith the Lord of hosts.”
                                                                  Haggai‬ ‭2:7‬