Like every other human, I have made my share of mistakes. Some big, and some minute. I had hoped to avoid some, but the world works with its own plans. I have only this life and had hoped that I would live it as best as I can, learning from other people's lives and mistakes. I did learn from others' mistakes, and I made a few of my own. This post is for the future me to look back to and learn, and for you to learn too. So here goes my regrets:
1. Interest in the opinions of others. I used chalk this down to 'I'm human!' but that was just a silly excuse. I didn't know then what I know now. I have learnt that some people are not interested in somethings I do, some don't even notice the effort. I also learnt that people will always have an opinion about the things I do and the way I live my life. That sometimes does not translate to them being interested in my wellbeing, they might just be jealous, or plain opinionated people. Lesson learnt? Do me! There will always be opinions about my life anyway!
2. Not starting sooner. A lot of things I wanted to do and be by now. A lot of plans written. But, for one reason or another, I procrastinated until it was almost past the time. One of the reasons for this was, as said earlier, I was interested in the opinions of others. I kept thinking, 'What will they think of me?', 'Will they like it?', etc. But as also said earlier, I'm doing me now. Better late than never. Doing them all. Because even if I don't do it well(which I won't!), I will have peace in my heart that I did start.
3. Not letting go. My mum says that this is my nature. I hardly let go of things, property, feelings, people, just name it. I believe that everything is, or came, in my life for a reason, and I find it hard to let go when it's time. This has caused some problems at different times and I have learnt not to hold on to anything longer than I ought to.
4. Not keeping in touch with people. I always do this. Sometimes I go to the extent of promising to call and failing to do that. It's never intentional. I just go weeks, or months without so much as an sms. I have missed a lot of things because of that. But in recent years, social media has helped me keep in touch with people, even in little ways. Definitely doing better now.
5. Caring too much about money. Okay! I know that 'money is not the answer to everything', but my excuse is that I have younger ones and I therefore have a responsibility to be there for them. And for this, I am not sorry. Will reduce it, but I don't have the luxury to not care about money at all.
6. Not saving/investing more. I opened my first personal savings account at 16 years. You would think that I have a nest now. Ahh...not true. I sure wish I had been wiser about cash and saved and/or invested in those years. But I have the time now, and I'm wiser. Definitely working on this.
Will be leaving it at this as these are the ones I am sure I regret for now. I hope 2016 is better for us all. May we learn from our mistakes as that is the essence of regrets.
- The Lady
“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all
things are become new.”
2 Corinthians 5:17
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